I started living my dreams when everything fell apart.
In 2005, after a major depression and a sudden divorce in my early 20s, I took on the biggest challenge I had ever heard of: an Ironman triathlon. I felt so weak and broken, I figured 2.4 miles of swimming, a 112 mile bike ride, and a 26.2 marathon all in one day was just what I needed.
Intuitively, I knew this race was going to change everything. It did.
I trained for a year. And the stronger I got on the outside, the stronger I felt on the inside. Training for something that difficult taught me focus and discipline.
It taught me to believe in myself when everyone else thought I was nuts.
Self-belief, it turns out, is a key skill for dream chasers.
Ironman stoked my passion for dreams. That passion has shaped my life ever since.
In 2007, I tackled a bigger dream: becoming a writer and theatre artist. I’d always known I was supposed to be an artist, but I’d abandoned those dreams for a more “realistic” life of working full-time at an advertising agency and owning a condo.
I developed my first one-woman show and performed it in small local theatres. It was terrifying and exhilarating and I was hungry for more.
So, I took on my Big, Beautiful Dream.
The One. The dream that had been smoldering and popping secretly in my heart for a decade: I wanted to write in Paris.
I spent a month writing in Paris in 2008 and another month there in 2009. At that time, I also did a volunteer project that took me to Zambia, India, and Haiti where I interviewed more than 100 men, women, and children who live without access to clean water and sanitation.
I realized that having dreams is human, and living them sets us free.
I felt something shift.
I landed in NYC in early 2010 with a backpack and a plan to stay five weeks. Three weeks in, I knew I wanted to stay. I asked the universe for a sign: If I see a red balloon by noon tomorrow, I won’t get on the plane back home.
I saw the red balloon. I stayed.
Since 2010, I’ve created and performed performance art, experimental theatre, and my own mix of sports and theatre. My shows have been presented in New York, London, Edinburgh, and Western Canada. I made a life as an artist here in Brooklyn, gradually turning my artistic practice toward one of service.
It’s not just about me living my dreams. It’s about supporting people as they chase after theirs.
People who are hungry.
Maybe you feel like your life is slipping through your fingers. Maybe it doesn’t feel like your life at all, just a collection of obligations and disappointments you don’t remember choosing. Maybe you’ve been handed the ultimate do-over in the form of tragedy or loss. Maybe you’ve been beaten down, belittled, and you’re finally ready to rise up. Maybe you’re just tired of hearing yourself complain.
Whatever has brought you here, welcome and FINALLY and thank God and grab your clutch, Patricia, because this train is leaving the station.
I’m taking everything I’ve learned over the past decade and giving it all to you.
The Dream Chasers Handbook
I approached the last decade of living my dreams scientifically: jumping in without knowing what I was doing, screwing up, trying again, failing again, setting impossible goals, reading everything I could, making some things happen, aggravating everyone I know, getting lucky, burning my adrenal glands to tiny, smoking nubs, learning on my feet, learning on my knees, listening to my insides, and soaking up the guidance of the world’s greatest makers, thinkers, and doers.
This is the book I wish I had. This book would have saved me a whole lot of grief and a few grey hairs. This is (almost) everything I’ve learned on the rewarding and humbling journey to making all my dreams come true.
The Dream Chaser’s Handbook is for people who try too hard, feel too deeply, and think too much.
It’s for those who are sick to death of hearing themselves talk about that trip they’ll take “someday” or what life will be like when they finally write their novel.
I mean sick to death.
You would rather walk to Topeka on a road of broken glass than say one more word about it.
This book is for you if you’re crawling out of your skin in a life that doesn’t feel like yours. It’s for you if you obsessively buy memoirs and watch documentaries about other people who did that thing you want to do. It’s for you if you’ve forgotten that this is your one, precious life, not a 24-7 drive-through service for your kids, your partner, your dog, and your boss.
This book is for you if you’re so ready for change, you want to scream. It’s time and you know it. It’s a quarter past time.
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